All these years most of my friends whenever feeling messed up tend to share their thoughts & feelings with me. Like a true friend I give them a patient hearing with minimum possible intervention. Towards the end of all they often seek my opinion & ask me what should they do? I must admit that it does act as ego booster for me but sometimes it becomes pain in the neck. For the simple fact that I am no expert, I must have had previous birth lives yet I am a novice in myself. I don’t have any formula to fix all the problems arising in one’s life. I too have my own share of things to deal with. So at times I find it annoying when people expect me to act as their adviser. I mostly refuse to do so saying there is no fixed recipe or formula for living life which has been figured out by some & they can just apply it to your life & you’ll get answers to your problems. It is all very personal, varying person to person. You have to make out yourself by trial & error, as to what works for you & what not. Nobody else can do that for you or on your behalf.

I am in no way against providing moral support to someone in crisis but I am strictly against spoon feeding ideas. I agree that at times you do need someone to show you the way out but then if you just wish to cling on someone’s finger throughout instead of walking on your own then that is not fair.

 Life is like a journey where you are not aware of the way but you have been provided with a map. The first thing one can do is to learn how to read the map. The map I referred here implies intuitions. It is a very subtle instinct usually felt through one’s heart. But I can say it with full confidence that it is true, usually. This inner voice always guides us towards the right direction if at all we calm ourselves & feel it. It can turn out a huge blessing throughout our lives.

Then I guess one should be adventurous enough to cope with the uncertainties of the way ahead. Nobody knows for sure what is going to happen the very next moment. Life is full of surprises, pleasant & unpleasant both, in store for all of us. Instead of fretting about things just take it as it comes. Remember the famous saying “there are no problems only situations to deal with…”

Indeed it won’t help if you just keep worrying about future & remain apprehensive. Whether you like it or not just get down to work & deal with it, as you can’t run away…

And as you will deal, you will learn more & more, about yourself & your hidden capabilities. You will automatically formulate a first hand recipe for yourself that fits for your life exactly.

Always remember people there are no mistakes, only lessons….

At least dare to try out, something or the other will work out for you.

Again I am repeating that I am in no ways against being there for our near & dear ones in hour of need but I absolutely reject to become someone’s walking stick.