All these years most of my friends whenever feeling messed up tend to share their thoughts & feelings with me. Like a true friend I give them a patient hearing with minimum possible intervention. Towards the end of all they often seek my opinion & ask me what should they do? I must admit that it does act as ego booster for me but sometimes it becomes pain in the neck. For the simple fact that I am no expert, I must have had previous birth lives yet I am a novice in myself. I don’t have any formula to fix all the problems arising in one’s life. I too have my own share of things to deal with. So at times I find it annoying when people expect me to act as their adviser. I mostly refuse to do so saying there is no fixed recipe or formula for living life which has been figured out by some & they can just apply it to your life & you’ll get answers to your problems. It is all very personal, varying person to person. You have to make out yourself by trial & error, as to what works for you & what not. Nobody else can do that for you or on your behalf.

I am in no way against providing moral support to someone in crisis but I am strictly against spoon feeding ideas. I agree that at times you do need someone to show you the way out but then if you just wish to cling on someone’s finger throughout instead of walking on your own then that is not fair.

 Life is like a journey where you are not aware of the way but you have been provided with a map. The first thing one can do is to learn how to read the map. The map I referred here implies intuitions. It is a very subtle instinct usually felt through one’s heart. But I can say it with full confidence that it is true, usually. This inner voice always guides us towards the right direction if at all we calm ourselves & feel it. It can turn out a huge blessing throughout our lives.

Then I guess one should be adventurous enough to cope with the uncertainties of the way ahead. Nobody knows for sure what is going to happen the very next moment. Life is full of surprises, pleasant & unpleasant both, in store for all of us. Instead of fretting about things just take it as it comes. Remember the famous saying “there are no problems only situations to deal with…”

Indeed it won’t help if you just keep worrying about future & remain apprehensive. Whether you like it or not just get down to work & deal with it, as you can’t run away…

And as you will deal, you will learn more & more, about yourself & your hidden capabilities. You will automatically formulate a first hand recipe for yourself that fits for your life exactly.

Always remember people there are no mistakes, only lessons….

At least dare to try out, something or the other will work out for you.

Again I am repeating that I am in no ways against being there for our near & dear ones in hour of need but I absolutely reject to become someone’s walking stick.  

The 'GOOD OLD DAYS' Syndrome

Yesterday I & my good old college friend were having conversation on phone after a long time. It’s almost 6yrs now that we have left college. Listening to her I was surprised to realize that she remembers all the incidences that took place then, almost very specifically. Throughout our chat she was describing them with so much precision that almost took me by shock & to confess I felt bored as well. Because I am never so keen to discuss past events unless there is something historical about them rather I am more concerned about the present & future plans. But I guess my friend is no different from many other fellow beings. Mostly all of them are so much attached to their respective past, the so called ‘good old days’ that they just overlook the beauty of the present while completely ignoring the future. Often the elderly members in the family can be seen sitting amongst other family members or friends telling all sorts of stories glorifying the past thus finding faults in the present. How can such attitude help, I fail to understand? Except leaving you frustrated & discontent. In every era there are some good events & some bad events happening around. You can say it’s a part of life. Then why do you have to be biased about them. Agreed, life was much simpler in the yester years but then even today it’s not so bad. We have made so much progress in almost all fields. Why not look at them with praise? Similarly in our personal lives, it’s good to cherish memories but then what’s the point in clinging to them. You shouldn’t start finding your identity in them. Your identity lies in the present. If you are still identifying yourself with the past events then may be you have failed to move on with life, which shows that you have not grown. You must realize that nothing is stationary around you, everything is changing. Whether you recognize it or not, nothing is same as in ‘good old days’. So instead of resisting what is present just embrace it because you are a part of it anyhow. 

BIG fish

While watching a movie called 'Big Fish’, i was made to wonder what if each one of us knew how we gonna die, won't that allow us to live life more fearlessly & encourage us to take more risks?
In the movie i mentioned, the male lead somehow came to know how he is gonna die. Knowing which he made some unusual choices which no one else would have dared to make. Realizing his dreams one after the other while taking the road less traveled, turning his life into an adventure trip.
Seeing people around me trapped in their monotonous lives, i felt it could be a great idea. All our lives we run after security, in terms of a well-paid job, huge bank balance or relationships. While later on these so called securities becomes bondage in itself for us. We allow something invisible to stop us from realizing our full potentials. We get easily stuck with mediocrity. Living our lives under the shade of an unknown fear, fear of loss, fear of pain. Being afraid of making the right choices, choices that we would have made otherwise in the absence of that fear. We just refuse to look beyond our comfort zones. Loosing all the zest for life, making it look like a punishment.
I say what's the point, if we are simply not happy with the choices that we are living by then what's the use of making such. Instead why not dare to go with our heart & choose. May be we get criticized or mocked around initially; still at least we will be satisfied within our heart with whatever we have.
As rightly said by Ayn Rand (Author) "Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all.  Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle.    
It’s not always that we die because the body dies but sometimes it’s the spirit of life in us which dies out long before the actual death....
Let’s make our lives worth living by keeping the spirit alive.... :)

Charlie Chaplin

Today being the 122nd Birth Anniversary of CHARLIE CHAPLIN (1889-1977), comedian, producer, writer, film director, composer. Here are some finest quotes by himself as a remembrance of his sheer genuis & simplicity.

• "To truly laugh, you must be able to take your pain, and play with it!"


• "Nothing is permanent in this world- not even our troubles."


• "In the end, everything is a gag."


• "Failure is unimportant. It takes courage to make a fool of yourself."


• "A day without laughter is a day wasted."


• "We think too much and feel too little."


• "Life is a tragedy when seen in close-up, but a comedy in long shot."


• "What do you want a meaning for? Life is a desire, not a meaning."


• "Why should poetry have to make sense?"


• "That's what we all are. Amateurs. We don't live long enough to be anything else."

The Best Gift u can give on this Valentine's Day!

14 th Feb is round the corner. Valentine's Day, the day of love, the day meant to celebrate love. People try very hard to make this day as special as possible. They put in all efforts to make this day memorable for their loved ones. It really feels awesome when you spend time with your loved ones, bring them gifts, plan a surprise or outing etc. Its mostly our friends or family that we like to be with on this special day of love.

Love indeed is a beautiful feeling. It makes you receptive, of all the good things in life. It helps to bring out the goodness hidden in you deep down. It means no boundary, no set definition, no limits but then, why do we have to hold a narrow approach towards love & who we share our love with? Is it just our friends or family who need or deserve our love & care? There could be various aspects which deserve our care & attention only if we bother to look around us.

There are millions of people both elderly & young who are not that privileged. They don't have anyone to make them feel special. They don't have anybody to share their joys & sorrows, going through days & nights lonely either in an orphanage or old age home. Why not reach out to such people & share our love with them? If a little gesture from our side can bring a smile on their faces that would be the best gift for anyone from anyone. So why not give it a try this time, be generous.

On this Valentine's Day do something different. Celebrate love by sharing it with those less fortunate ones. Gift a smile, the most precious gift of all :)